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Don’t hold grudges!

01 Friday Apr 2022

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Can holding a grudge really hurt your health? Absolutely! Osteopath Vicky Vlachonis says stress and negativity can trigger a vicious cycle by producing the stress hormone cortisol, which interferes with your body’s natural healing mechanism. That can lead to increased physical pain, and reduced self-esteem, which can lead to even more negativity, and cause the destructive cycle to start all over again.

The good news, just admitting you’re holding a grudge gets you into the forgiveness ballpark. To fully let go, Vlachonis recommends what she calls “forgiveness meditation.” Here’s how it works: Every night, find a quiet place, sit with your eyes closed and repeat a forgiveness mantra, in your head or out loud. Something like: “I forgive those who have wronged me. I forgive myself. I let go of all anger, resentment and pain. I open myself to love, peace and joy – and I am thankful.” Do this every night before bed until you feel you no longer need it.

And that can vastly improve both your mental state, AND your physical health.

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Dealing with upset family members

21 Friday Jan 2022

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Do you have someone in your family you always butt heads with? No matter what’s being discussed – or what the situation is – they find a reason to get mad. Clinical psychiatrist Dr. Mark Goulston says what they have is called “impotent rage.”

It’s anger that results from feeling powerless. They feel like they don’t have control over their life, so they lash out at whoever is around. Or they feel they were dealt a bad hand in life – so they take out their feelings of frustration on others. So how can you deal with them? Listen to them. Really try and understand what they’re saying and rephrase it back to them. Once they feel like they’ve been heard, they’ll calm down. Because it makes them feel they’re being treated fairly.

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Don’t get mad – get exercise!

13 Friday Aug 2021

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One of the best prescriptions for anger is exercise. A study from the University of Georgia found that taking a brisk walk, hopping on a bike, or going for a run can squash anger. In the study, volunteers who cycled for 30 minutes and were then purposely irritated by the researchers showed virtually no rise in anger. Exercise works like a drug to protect you against angry moods – almost like taking an aspirin can help prevent a heart attack.

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Forgiveness can help to relieve your pain.

13 Tuesday Jul 2021

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Forgiving someone who wronged you can do more than improve your mood. It can also relieve physical aches and pains! In a study at Duke University, people with lower back pain were told to work on letting go of their anger toward someone who’d wronged them. The result? Their pain levels dropped significantly. That’s because anger and other negative feelings trigger a reaction in the brain that increases the feelings of pain. But thinking calming, peaceful thoughts diminishes that perception, and helps ease the ache. So, if you want to feel fewer aches and pains, just forgive someone who upset you.

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Don’t exercise when you’re upset or angry!

09 Wednesday Jun 2021

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Want to reduce your risk of getting hurt while you’re working out? Don’t exercise when you’re upset or angry! Because strong emotions make us move more aggressively, according to Harvard University researchers. And when we add the distraction of rehashing the issue at hand, we end up paying less attention to proper form and movement, which raises the risk of overuse and injury.

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Don’t hold grudges!

31 Friday Jul 2020

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Can holding a grudge really hurt your health? Absolutely! Osteopath Vicky Vlachonis says stress and negativity can trigger a vicious cycle by producing the stress hormone cortisol, which interferes with your body’s natural healing mechanism. That can lead to increased physical pain, and reduced self-esteem, which can lead to even more negativity, and cause the destructive cycle to start all over again.

The good news, just admitting you’re holding a grudge gets you into the forgiveness ballpark. To fully let go, Vlachonis recommends what she calls “forgiveness meditation.” Here’s how it works: Every night, find a quiet place, sit with your eyes closed and repeat a forgiveness mantra, in your head or out loud. Something like: “I forgive those who have wronged me. I forgive myself. I let go of all anger, resentment and pain. I open myself to love, peace and joy – and I am thankful.” Do this every night before bed until you feel you no longer need it.

And that can vastly improve both your mental state, AND your physical health.

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Nice guys live longer!

05 Tuesday May 2020

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You know the old saying ‘nice guys finish last.’ But we should change that to ‘nice guys live longer!’ Researchers from New South Wales University interviewed over 200 men who’d reached their 100th birthdays.

The conclusion? Men who reached that age milestone were more optimistic and open-minded and were more likely to have close relationships with others. And they were less prone to negative emotions, like anger, stress, and hostility. And numerous studies show that upbeat extroverts tend to be healthier and live longer, than downers.

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Don’t lose your temper!

10 Friday Apr 2020

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Did you know that if you’re trying NOT to lose your temper, you should forget about taking a deep breath and counting to 10? The reason? Because it can make you even angrier. Researchers at Ohio State University say that if you focus too much on how you’re feeling, it keeps the anger in the forefront of your mind – which makes you more likely to act aggressively. So, what’s the best way to tame a temper? So-called “self-distancing” – where you mentally remove yourself from the situation by pretending you’re seeing it from the point of view of a fly on the wall. Which has been shown to be more effective at eliminating anger – even immediately after the incident… compared to thinking calming thoughts, or trying to find your “happy place.”

Again the best way to control your temper is to practice “self-distancing” – where you mentally remove yourself from the situation by pretending you’re seeing it from the point of view of a fly on the wall.

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If your boss has you so mad you’re about to lose it…

03 Friday Jan 2020

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…find the nearest gym and hop on a rowing machine (at lunch or after work). According to research from psychology professor, Brad Bushman at Ohio State University, just 5 minutes on a rowing machine can reduce feelings of aggression caused by criticism. And it works a lot better than taking out your anger on a punching bag. Doing that fuels aggressive feelings, and Bushman’s research found people got angrier! Because aggressive moves make people feel more aggressive. But on a rowing machine, you’re using your entire body – and rowing at a moderate pace of 7 miles per hour relaxes muscles in a way that counteracts the tension caused by anger.

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Don’t get mad. Here’s why!

09 Thursday May 2019

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Being angry can increase your odds of having a heart attack up to 14-fold for up to two hours after an argument. And studies show that people who can’t control their temper are more prone to thickened arteries, which can be an early sign of heart disease and stroke risk. That’s why Duke University researchers say control your temper and you could control your heart.

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